Is Your Man Losing Weight Faster than You?
Don't Let Negative Emotions Get the Best of You
By Jennifer Roland
Did you and your husband (or boyfriend) decide to work together to lose weight, diet, and exercise more?If so, it is likely that he has lost more weight than you have, as men's body types and chemistry make weight loss a little easier than it is for women. You might be feeling angry that you are working hard and seeing less reward for your hard work.
You might be jealous of the attention he may be getting from other women. You might be scared that he won't be attracted to you as you remain close to the same weight.
Anger
You've probably seen the commercials for the weight loss product that features the cartoon couple who began losing weight at the same time. The husband has lost a lot more weight than the wife, and she is mad about it.
But there's no need to waste a lot of time and energy on anger. Remind yourself that each person gains and loses weight at his or her own pace, and as mentioned previously, biology plays a large role in those differences between gender. Women's bodies have a higher percentage of body fat and a biological need to be able to become pregnant—these factors work together to make weight loss more of a struggle for women. Keep following your plan and you will achieve your goal weight in a healthy and reasonable time.
Jealousy
When your husband drops a few pounds, he starts to feel more confident. This increase in confidence makes him more attractive to other women—but also to you. Don't let jealousy about the new attention he is getting make you uncomfortable. Other women may be looking at your man, but you get to go home with him. Those other women are most likely jealous of you.
Fear
As your husband's attractiveness quotient increases, you may feel that yours stays the same or even decreases. You may worry that he will no longer be attracted to you unless your body changes keep pace with his.
Your husband is not obsessing about your weight. He loves you, and he is attracted to you already. The only thing that would make you less attractive at this point is low self-esteem. Focus on your successes and the fact that you might be more attracted to hubby now that he has dropped a
few pounds and gained that all-important self-confidence. Your continued confidence as you work to achieve your weight loss goal will make you progressively more attractive to him, no matter what the scale says at any given moment.
Shared weight loss goals can go a long way toward bringing you together as a couple. Don't let negative emotions jeopardize your progress toward a healthier and happier life together.